The Heartache of Bullying Doesn’t Have an Age Limit

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Originally Published on Huffington Post on 10/27/14.

According to a 2014 study by No Bullying.com, over half of young people have been cyber bullied. It ‘s a growing concern synonymous with tweens and teens, causing parents to become hyper vigilant online supervision. But cyber bullying isn’t limited to those dealing with growth spurts and racing hormones.

The other players in the cyber-bullying world are grown-ups — untethered from any moderation and free to troll the Internet. They are as malicious as the adolescent ones you work so hard to protect your children from. Except no one is supervising their activity or protecting their targets. Yes, their victims are other adults. However, adulthood does not come with immunity to the trauma of bullying.

Last month, an article I wrote chronicling my struggles with online dating was published on both xoJane and Huffington Post. It focused on a personal experience, and included photos that were used on my online dating profile. At the end the article, I asked readers to share their own troubles with digital dating. The essay went viral, gaining 30K likes in one week. Apparently my experience hit a nerve with others who were experiencing a similar situation. Continue reading

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Hump Day Round Up 9/17

tumblr_mpdh5jkAIW1rc407qo1_400Waking up on Wednesday mornings just feels better than the prior two mornings. Not as fantastic as Friday feels, or the relief Saturday brings- but enough to motivate me to take a bit more time on my hair and make up.

Maybe you’re week is going as shitty as mind did last week. Have no fear- the internet is here to make everything more tolerable for at least a few minutes. Here a few of my recent favorites in honor of Hump Day!

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The Weekend I Spent Analyzing My Life Because of the Internet

 images (1)This weekend has been quite different than what I had planed. The majority of my waking hours was spent on Saturday feeling conflicted. Part of me was feeling ecstatic that a piece I had written was on the front of a wildly, successful online magazine. Writing for xoJane had been a writing goal for so long, and contributing over the past 9 months has been incredible.

My goal has as always been to connect with others through my writing- so someone out there going through similar situations won’t feel so alone. As a writer, the fact that the comments have continued to pour in (last time I check it was at 502) is also an incredible win. People are reading, clicking, and sharing my story. Someone other than my grandmother is taking the time to read and talk about what I have to say. 

The other part of me is mentally wrestling with myself. I would say 85-90% of the comments have been uplifting and full of constructive criticism. I have gotten AMAZING online dating advice and can’t wait to try it out. It was the advice I was looking for from readers. There have also been lovely emails sent to me from readers saying their experiencing the same thing, or have in the past. Again- it was a goal of the article to strike a chord with women facing similar struggles. Continue reading

I asked for Online Dating help- and XOJANE Comments Exploded

Screen Shot 2014-09-06 at 10.12.51 AMWriting my online reject article for xoJane was a shot in the dark- it was a personal experience that I thought a few people would be interested in, or maybe relate to. When it was published yesterday afternoon- all comment hell broke loose. I’m not going to lie- I spent Friday night pouring through the array of feedback in the comments section. Many uplifiting, and full of valid advice. Others made me want to drink tequila and cry into the fur of my mentioned (and must discussed) ‘highly intelligent cat’. 

I woke up to this—all this in less than 20 hours. Continue reading